Meet You Halfway

The gift of singlehood is that it gives ample time to explore one’s self. It is a time to grow and sort out priorities in life as we go on. It is also a phase when we live in a constant state of wanting. We struggle to raise a good career, sophisticated lifestyle and buy all the worldly things our pockets can afford. We resign from one desire to the next, until we feel cornered to make the ultimate decision – to stay single or not.

There comes a time when we finally get that burning desire to give and love, and we begin to understand what we actually want is to live out of the single life. Most of us have had the image of our ideal mates stuck into our heads the moment we realized the meaning of love and relationships. We dream of the perfect man or woman who usually reminds us of our father, mother, sister, brother, friend, or another individual whom we truly admire. Then we imagine loving, and being loved in return.

Finding that one perfect person is truly an exciting journey. A real-life game of hide and seek. We, hopeless-romantics, believe the right one will just come straight to us, in the perfect place, at the perfect time. Though sometimes we misunderstand the idea – thinking the right one would just show up at our doorstep and sweep us right off our feet. It really doesn’t work that way. How on earth could we possible see, or open doors for, prospects if we continue locking ourselves up in our houses, or just mingling with the same set of people? We definitely need to go to places where our ideal mates could be hanging out – the bookstore, CD shop, coffee shop, grocery, park, or any place we, ourselves, enjoy going to. We’ll never know, he or she could be sitting right next to us. As a friend quoted earlier, “Some people are lucky to be at the right place and time, without exerting any effort to find their perfect mates. And some, after a long time of waiting, try to find and meet them halfway when they feel their soul mates have slightly swerved or taken an alternate route. Either way, it’s destiny.”